I read a book a few years ago by Melissa Ambrosini that talks about the gratification of the word 'busy' and how we use it as a badge of honor when in reality being busy isn't a good thing nor something to be proud of.
I never realised how common it was to say the word busy instead of actually thinking about how you are and responding accordingly with something actually valuable and conversation worthy.
Imagine you're walking down the street, you see an old friend so you stop and talk to them. You say how are you? they say 'busy' boom, convo dead!
After reading Melissa's book 'Mastering your mean girl' I took it upon myself to not use the word busy and I have tried my absolute hardest to exclude it from my vocabulary ever since. Instead I use 'full' or 'full on' then share some of the things I have been up to.
As a result I notice when people try and get me to use the word busy they say 'You're always so busy, you've got so much going on, how do you find the time?!
To that I say 'it's easy, I love it. If I didn't love it I wouldn't do it and that's why I'm not 'busy' all the time unlike everyone else.'
We make time for things important to us and busy is never a good enough excuse.
Until yesterday I have never heard anyone else share a dislike for the word 'busy' which makes me think that as a society we think its okay to be 'busy' all the time. If being busy means not having time for those around you or for yourself for that matter I never want to be busy again.
The next time you find yourself about to say that you're 'busy' pause and actually think for a little about what else you could say that isn't 'busy', see how you feel and how the conversation flows afterwards.
What do you think of the word 'busy' - I would love to hear your thoughts. PLease let me know in the comments below.